One thing that has being bothering me as of late is the disorder most suffer from. Favoritism exists, and it’s a plague most deny of having, and it’s also a disease worth curing. Like most sicknesses, favoritism lingers everywhere, affecting anyone who is one-sided. In the heart of a family, parents are the number one victim to what I like to call D.F.S (Denial of Favoritism Syndrome). Parents that belong in this category believe that they are being equal to each child; even with the countless evidence of favoritism they will not admit fault, and simply call the least favored child “jealous” over the other.
An excellent example of the existence of favoritism in families occurs when the favored is scolded by the father about having a boyfriend at a young age; the mother intrudes in, and demands the lecture to end. The least favored child forgets to cook rice due to the stressful hours of studying, and instantly ends up at the receiving end of unnecessary words from the father, and with the mother doing nothing, but giving the least favored a cold stare. At times the least favored lose respect for the parents, and become rebellious. This then leads the parents to conclude that their child is jealous. The parents will never admit to favoritism, for it’s considered to make them look terrible, and that’s the last thing they want. One may lay a hand on the least favored, but will never even think about doing the same to the other.
Everyone suffers from favoritism. From favoring McDonalds over Burger King to watching Korean drama more than Filipino telenovelas everyone does it. Whether you like it or not, we all suffer from D.F.S, but favoring a child over the other determines the mindset the least favored will have, and the view he or she will have on the world, and his or her life. The most favored will have the mindset of doing anything he or she wants, and not getting into trouble for it.
An excellent example of the existence of favoritism in families occurs when the favored is scolded by the father about having a boyfriend at a young age; the mother intrudes in, and demands the lecture to end. The least favored child forgets to cook rice due to the stressful hours of studying, and instantly ends up at the receiving end of unnecessary words from the father, and with the mother doing nothing, but giving the least favored a cold stare. At times the least favored lose respect for the parents, and become rebellious. This then leads the parents to conclude that their child is jealous. The parents will never admit to favoritism, for it’s considered to make them look terrible, and that’s the last thing they want. One may lay a hand on the least favored, but will never even think about doing the same to the other.
Everyone suffers from favoritism. From favoring McDonalds over Burger King to watching Korean drama more than Filipino telenovelas everyone does it. Whether you like it or not, we all suffer from D.F.S, but favoring a child over the other determines the mindset the least favored will have, and the view he or she will have on the world, and his or her life. The most favored will have the mindset of doing anything he or she wants, and not getting into trouble for it.
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